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I’m excited to say that I’ve just opened up my own online store at and I hope you will go check it out. You can visit my storefront at this link: Tender Mercies Studio. Right now I’m offering some clip art designed by me and I hope to add more.

I have a few designs already, including three colorful lollipops, some winter polar bears, and a free download of basketballs! Please see them below! These clipart figures are always fun to use for classroom/homeschool games. I usually cut mine out and laminate them first so they can be used over and over again and are durable. You can find a very affordable laminator if you don’t own one at Walmart for around $30…it was worth every penny for me!

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Two Types of Adultery You Probably Didn

Everyone knows the obvious (physical adultery) which is clearly when one man or woman has chosen to physically touch another person who is not their husband or wife in a sexual way. However, there are two more subtle and sneaky ways the devil tries to deceive a husband or wife into crossing the line into adultery. Are you aware of what they are?

1. Emotional Adultery

“The mouth of strange women is a deep pit: he that is abhorred of the Lord shall fall therein.” – Proverbs 22:14 

Emotional adultery occurs when one person shares their personal thoughts, feelings, and emotions with another person other than their husband or wife. This can be deceiving because a person can think they aren’t being unfaithful as long as they don’t touch the other person, however, emotional adultery is crossing the line into sin just as physical adultery does and can cause extremely serious problems in your relationship with your spouse and lead into physical adultery if not stopped.

Here are some examples of emotional adultery:

- When a conversation becomes about personal topics instead of just business with someone other than your spouse

- Discussing your marriage issues and problems with a member of the opposite sex who is not your spouse

- Discussing your sex life or experiences to someone outside your marriage

- When you feel attracted to a person’s personality or looks and you don’t guard your heart

- Having a friend of the opposite sex that you talk to or hang out with without your spouse

- Anytime you have “chemistry” or unspoken attraction to the opposite sex who is not your spouse and you do not attempt to escape the situation (remove yourself from their presence)

- When you are “caring” towards a person of the opposite sex who is not your spouse and provide emotional support or comfort for that person (even if they claim they really need your help or that they are struggling with something). Also, if you receive emotional support and comfort from a member of the opposite sex that is not your spouse

2. Visual Adultery

“Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28

Visual adultery is exactly what it sounds like; committing adultery with your eyes. Again, visual adultery can be deceiving as well since a person can think that as long as they aren’t physically touching someone other than their spouse that they are not being unfaithful. Jesus proved this wrong when he said that if you just look with lust you have committed adultery in your heart. I would define looking with lust as anytime you look at someone or someone’s body because you think they look good or might look good. This would be opposed the normal routine of just noticing a person. You can notice a person has red hair, or is tall, has broad shoulders, etc., however, lusting is different than noticing. Lusting is when you intentionally direct your eyes towards a person or their body because it looks good.

When you look with lust you look at a person as if they are an object and not a person with a personality and soul. Instead, you receive a little bit of sexual gratification from the glance. It’s just a small amount of pleasure you receive when you look so, because of that, it doesn’t make you feel that guilty and makes it easier to do again. This can open the door for a spirit of addiction as well because that little “feel good” moment you got from looking is so seemingly innocent and easy to accomplish that it becomes very easy to do and you can easily slip into being addicted to looking at people other than your spouse in lust.

“I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?” – Job 31:1

“For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life: To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adultress will hunt for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour’s wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.” – Proverbs 6:23-29

3. The Scope and Consequences

It is a fact that what the world thinks is wrong and right is not necessarily what God thinks is wrong or right. God’s standards are much higher. For example, the world says that as long as you don’t cross “third base” you haven’t sinned, however, when I was engaged to my husband the Lord let us know we were being too physical even with our hugs and that we need to back off of each other and remain pure until we said “I do.” There are a great deal of people in the world today who would think that is being too strict or religious but, the simple fact is, God lays his laws on our hearts and you know in your spirit when you are crossing the line.

“Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the Lord pondereth the hearts.” – Proverbs 21:2

“For this is the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel after those days, saith the Lord; I will put my laws into their mind, and write them in their hearts: and I will be to them a God, and they shall be to me a people:” – Hebrews 8:10

You might think you can get a away with indulging in a little “fun” sin for a while, but let me remind you that the cost is very, very high even just for a “little” sin. Each time and specific instance you commit adultery physically, emotionally, or visually you are inviting the enemy, Satan, and his demons into your life, your marriage and your home. Since you’ve given right to the enemy to come in, he can then work in your mind, your thoughts, and your actions to drive you further away from your spouse because Satan’s main objective is to destroy family and your marriage. The soul ties you have created with the person you lusted after are set in place and cannot be broken unless there is divine intervention. When you commit adultery, you become linked spiritually to the other person who is not your spouse which is a trap that is impossible to break free of without God. The pleasure of looking in lust, entertaining the idea of someone else, or having a “crush” on someone other than your spouse can be “fun” for a moment, but realize what you are signing up for when you do it. You could not only lose your wife/husband, your family, not be able to see your children anymore, pay hefty child support fines for a great deal of your life, be more distant from your spouse, be a bad example to other believers and also send the message to unbelievers that you aren’t serious about following Jesus, and live in the hell of sorrow you asked for, but you would also be guilty before God and that is a scary thing.

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” – Hebrews 13:4

“But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.” – Proverbs 6:32-33

“For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.” – Proverbs 5:3-5

So, what should you do? The Bible’s instructions are clear. Guard your heart and flee from evil. When you feel that hint of attraction it’s time to flee. Get out of the situation as soon as you can because anything less is agreement with the adultery and that will only lead to the destruction of your family and life (stay tuned for more tips on guarding your heart later in a later post).

“A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself; but the simple pass on, and are punished.” – Proverbs 27:12

“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” – John 10:10

“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” – Proverbs 4:23

Clearly, the cost of committing adultery in any form is high. You have decide for yourself if it is worth it. One major pitfall is thinking you are “above” the sin and won’t do it. The Bible makes it clear in 1 Corinthians 10:12: “Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.

“Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.” – Proverbs 16:18

So, what agreements come to mind that you have made with the enemy? You can ask forgiveness from God today and turn away from sin. Don’t let the enemy in….it’s just not worth the momentary pleasure!

As I explained in my earlier post, we decided to make a fun history oriented vacation this year to historic Jamestown and Williamsburg, Virginia. Even though it was a very hot day when we came it was interesting to see all of the old buildings, most of which are the original buildings, and it was neat to see the horse drawn carriages riding through the streets.

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At Williamsburg you can buy a day pass or something similar to a half-day pass which gets you into a select number of buildings and tours. For lunch there is a fancier (and more pricey) Tavern where you can sit down and eat at and also a smaller cafe (where we ate) which offered different options like deli sandwiches, fruit, cold drinks, and bakery items such as cookies and slices of pie. They have a nice little area where you can sit in the cool shade and eat which is nice.

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If you have small kids I definitely recommend bringing a stroller and several water bottles if it is a hot day because you can expect to do some good walking. They have bathrooms scattered throughout the town which I found were clean and nice to use (I’m glad they weren’t historic bathrooms!). One downside to using a stroller is that they aren’t allowed in the historic buildings. We solved this problem by taking turns doing the tours. Overall, we enjoyed our time at Williamsburg perusing the streets and getting, let’s just say, more than a taste of sunshine that was well worth it!

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We decided to visit historic Williamsburg & Jamestown this year for our family vacation and, of course, I didn’t want to pass up the opportunity to get some snapshots! I really enjoyed Jamestown a little bit more than Williamsburg simply because they had more history information that you could read whereas Williamsburg focused more on guided tours (which was somewhat problematic for us since we were pushing a stroller and the buildings were not made for those!).

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With a pass into Jamestown (which I found out is not the actual Jamestown – the original settlement location is about a mile up the road) we were able to walk through an Indian village, the Jamestown settlement, and were able to see the three ships (Nina, Pinta, & Santa Maria) and actually board two of them. All of the ships are recreations, of course! They had some staff in the boats to answer questions and it was very interesting. The walk was very pleasant and not too extensive during our vacation trip to historic Jamestown, Virginia.

There is also a very impressive museum that we spent quite a bit of time in after we were done looking at the outdoor areas. Overall, a very neat experience and would recommend it for a history-rich family vacation! Ps. stay tune for some pictures of Williamsburg!

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If you’re looking for an easy way to get that “campground” feel without a whole lot of effort & spend a fun afternoon outside with the kids for cheap you might consider having a s’more party in the driveway!

Summer Family Activity Driveway Marshmallows

Summer Family Activity Driveway Marshmallows

Here’s what you will need:

  • An affordable fire pit 
  • Marshmallow roasting sticks
  • Wood, matches, and paper
  • S’more supplies: chocolate, marshmallows, & graham crackers
  • Hot dogs, buns, & toppings (optional)
  • Chips & juices for kids (optional)
  • Watermelon (optional)

If you want to do a little extra and make a meal out of it, organic beef hot dogs are a great choice along with juice, chips, & a big juicy watermelon. It makes for a fun evening, can get you out in the sun a bit, and it’s nice to have something different than the usual dinner routine. There is just something special about family time around a fire while enjoying a perfectly toasted marshmallow!

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Yum! <3